rus|Mike wrote:Withour reasizing how it's bad/dangerous, that is. I mean ending communication with a person you like for the sole reason she's not in that your community is a really frightening sympthom.
Who said anything about ending communication with anyone?
rus|Mike wrote:To say nothing about your case with potential marriage. I mean you might have very well exchanged happiness with her (what can a person dream more about rather than being happy with someone he loves?) on those "teachings". And it didn't ring the bell to you.
There are any number of reasons that people chose not to get married, be it financial, emotional, physical, or mental. It seems like choosing not to marry someone because they have different values and as a consequence, morals is a rather good one. A monogamist probably wouldn't be wise to marry a swinger, though they might be very happy together, because their divergent attitudes create natural conflict.
Let's use xander as an example, he tends "to feel that religious indoctrination of children is a form of child abuse." Assuming he were single and met someone that he loved quite a bit, but who felt that it was her duty to raise her children in a house where the children were isolated from anything other than her religious ideas, would anyone find it unreasonable for him not to pursue a marriage?