I think
this is the game you're referring to.
Couple of things. You stuck your silos in the Middle East, just outside of radar range. That's aggressive, but ok. Then you stuck the bulk of your fleet in the Pacific. That's bad. That gives Africa a chance to scout you.
Secondly, you were up against CZA and cumiro in the Pacific. Those guys are no joke. Combined, they're damn near unbeatable. If you're gonna go up against a juggernaut like that, you need bombers up as soon as possible in your naval fight. You simply can never beat CZA or cumiro with just fighters.
Finally, spamming here refers to fighter or (less often) bomber spam. Meaning that the player is just sending wave after wave of planes right at a target in order to overwhelm it. Your best bet is here to get out of the way of spam.