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should I discuss this at Christmas Dinner?

Postby Dantesinferno » Wed Dec 23, 2015 11:07 pm

When i was four, my house caught fire and i was blamed for it. as far as i knew, my family was packing for a camping trip and i supposedly got into the lamp oil and lamps, spilling the oil as i filled the lamp and lit it.

I was four at the time and only remember bits and pieces of the whole thing, but i always believed this to be the truth, since ive always had a thing for fire anyways, which may have helped me believe.

Anyways, this isn't the first time my parents house has caught fire and burned down. the first time they blamed my older brother, the second time, they blamed my brothers cat for knocking an on lamp into a laundry basket, and the third they blamed on an electric radiator that shorted out.

My older sister recently told me that i didn't start the fire, and instead my mother did because the house was falling apart and needed remodeling badly. This was almost 48 years ago now and i feel conflicted whether i should confront my parents and ask them directly about this.

all the fire incidents i listed happened in a span of about 15 years through separate houses for each one.

anyways, i've always felt guilty for thinking i did this, and now i want to bring it up to my parents, but im worried that'll just stir up a whole load of things that maybe i just want to leave buried...

If anyone has any questions, i'll be happy to answer them to the best of my knowledge.
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Re: should I discuss this at Christmas Dinner?

Postby Endless » Wed Dec 23, 2015 11:13 pm

How old are you?
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Re: should I discuss this at Christmas Dinner?

Postby ReflectionCoup » Wed Dec 23, 2015 11:21 pm

You should tell them about the things you did with your dog though Moth ... very naughty indeed!
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Re: should I discuss this at Christmas Dinner?

Postby Dantesinferno » Wed Dec 23, 2015 11:21 pm

52 years old 53 in febuary
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Re: should I discuss this at Christmas Dinner?

Postby ReflectionCoup » Wed Dec 23, 2015 11:21 pm

Endless wrote:How old are you?


She is 45 and it shows.
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Re: should I discuss this at Christmas Dinner?

Postby ReflectionCoup » Wed Dec 23, 2015 11:22 pm

ReflectionCoup wrote:
Endless wrote:How old are you?


She is 45 and it shows.
My mistake, going on 60.
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Re: should I discuss this at Christmas Dinner?

Postby Dantesinferno » Wed Dec 23, 2015 11:22 pm

it was my brother who "tampered" with that dog not me
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Re: should I discuss this at Christmas Dinner?

Postby ReflectionCoup » Wed Dec 23, 2015 11:23 pm

Dantesinferno wrote:it was my brother who "tampered" with that dog not me


Again, I was wrong, did he only screwed the dog?
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Re: should I discuss this at Christmas Dinner?

Postby Dantesinferno » Wed Dec 23, 2015 11:26 pm

to be honest I dont want to discuss the dog - I want to discuss the house fires
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Re: should I discuss this at Christmas Dinner?

Postby ReflectionCoup » Wed Dec 23, 2015 11:29 pm

Dantesinferno wrote:to be honest I dont want to discuss the dog - I want to discuss the house fires


Ok, it's just that I work for the UK Child Protection Service and if there is any suspicion, and I mean any, even if it was only 2 times, not 3, not 1, not 1 and 1/1/2/ the number shall be at least 2, I have to report the dog, brother or cunt who touched you before your 5th birthday.
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Re: should I discuss this at Christmas Dinner?

Postby Colytic » Wed Dec 23, 2015 11:42 pm

I think you started that fire. And every other one.
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Re: should I discuss this at Christmas Dinner?

Postby Laika » Wed Dec 23, 2015 11:49 pm

I think your parents participated in an insurance fraud.
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Re: should I discuss this at Christmas Dinner?

Postby Endless » Thu Dec 24, 2015 12:05 am

So you are in your 50's and if everything you are telling us is true, then you should have had this conversation with them 20+ years ago. You were an adult then and you didn't have to waste another second wondering what was true. Instead, you wasted 20 years of your life wondering and now that your parents are senior citizens, you want to get the truth from them now.

I wouldn't even ask them now, because there is nothing they can say that will do anything to fix what happened 40+ years ago.
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Re: should I discuss this at Christmas Dinner?

Postby ReflectionCoup » Thu Dec 24, 2015 12:26 am

Endless wrote:So you are in your 50's and if everything you are telling us is true, then you should have had this conversation with them 20+ years ago. You were an adult then and you didn't have to waste another second wondering what was true. Instead, you wasted 20 years of your life wondering and now that your parents are senior citizens, you want to get the truth from them now.

I wouldn't even ask them now, because there is nothing they can say that will do anything to fix what happened 40+ years ago.


I saw moth running away in a diplo game like a little chicken ... very very disappointing, the myth is dead.

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Re: should I discuss this at Christmas Dinner?

Postby ReflectionCoup » Thu Dec 24, 2015 12:26 am

Endless wrote:So you are in your 50's and if everything you are telling us is true, then you should have had this conversation with them 20+ years ago. You were an adult then and you didn't have to waste another second wondering what was true. Instead, you wasted 20 years of your life wondering and now that your parents are senior citizens, you want to get the truth from them now.

I wouldn't even ask them now, because there is nothing they can say that will do anything to fix what happened 40+ years ago.


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